Coffee, cornbread and conversation: August 2005

Coffee, cornbread and conversation

random thoughts from a crazy girl

Sunday, August 21, 2005

Kanye, Kanye, Kanye...

Why is it that Kanye cannot control his temper? Here is my commentary on the latest Kanye news.

Mr. West went for an interview on Flow 93.5 last Tuesday to discuss their omission of the word “white” from the line “…he’ll leave your ass for a white girl…” (the word ass is also edited out). When he did not like the way that DJ “Hollywood” Rich Fagon was handling the interview, he got up and stormed out of the studio.

Okay, this is where I have a problem. I completely respect Kanye as an artist, as a producer; essentially I love that he is a creative thinker, BUT his arrogance and immature behaviour almost casts a dark shadow on all of his accomplishments.

I tend to agree that the word in question was not meant to degrade or belittle anyone; he was just stating a situation that happens to some men (hello Quincy Jones, Lionel Richie, Kobe Bryant). He wasn’t putting down those men, but making a comment. I took it that he was making light of a situation. Not agreeing or disagreeing with it.

I do agree that he should fight for what he believes in, but sometimes it is how you do it that gets your message across.

I was stunned with the fact that he couldn’t even stay and discuss his opinion in a mature fashion and decided to end the interview and leave.

A few hours later Wayne Williams (the Program Director for Flow 93.5) went to Kanye’s autograph session at HMV and spoke to him. Kanye in turn agreed to do a phone interview and discuss the song.

Yo, was it that hard for Kanye to realize that it is possible to sit down and discuss the issue like an adult? I know that it must be hard for someone to butcher your work and misrepresent it, but he had the opportunity to discuss it and possibly change the way that the station viewed that line.

I read a poll on asking if the word should be omitted, and an overwhelming amount of people believe that it should not be censored. See Kanye, we agree with you, but you need to chill!

Tuesday, August 16, 2005

I'm no Dr. Phil, but come on!!

Okay, here is the situation. I had a little misunderstanding with a friend a couple of days ago. After the argument, she acted as though everything was fine, so I left it alone. The very next morning I checked my cell and she left me a 4-minute soliloquy on why she was mad at me. I had no idea the extent of her anger. I was a little troubled because I wish that she had told me in person, (we could have spoken on the phone as well). I realized that we needed to clear things up.

After I played the message, I called her (of course she didn’t pick up—I had to leave a message) and told her that we needed to talk, because she was obviously hurt by the situation (the misunderstanding was so stupid, I don’t even want to write why we fought—sorry! Okay, I will tell you. She thought that I was telling her what to do, when in fact she was disrespecting a few people and I told her to stop).

I saw her on Monday and she acted like nothing had happened. I told her that we should talk and she said that she was okay and there was no need to go over the message. That only made me angry, because if you felt the need to cuss me out on my cell, you obviously had something you needed to get off of your chest. I told her that we eventually needed to talk.

I approached her again today and she refused to acknowledge what had happened. That scared me. I can’t understand how she could totally disregard not only her feelings, but mine. (I know this sounds like she is my man, but I think friendships are as stressful as relationships—that’s another entry!). I was giving her the opportunity to let her feelings out, but she chose to stifle them. I told her that if we didn't speak, it would be difficult for me to talk to her. The fact that she could switch her emotions so easily from happy to sad scared me.

I’m not sure what to do. Do I totally forget it and act like nothing has happened, or do I tell her that in order to have a good friendship we need to actually communicate with one another? I give up!!!!!!!!!!

Sunday, August 14, 2005

This is me...

Welcome to my blog. Expect insane observations on just about anything that happens to me. I promise that I won’t recount every little thing that happens in my life. No, there will be no blogs on getting my teeth cleaned.

Even though I write for an e-zine, I am excited about having this blog. I love the fact that I can log in at any given moment and write about whatever comes to mind.

Like most people, I am affected by everything around me. It could be a song that I hear on the radio, the man playing the saxophone in the subway station, or something crazy that I heard one of my students say (I work at an ESL school). Psst. Expect many posts on my students. I can’t help it. They never cease to amaze me!

Oh, I will definitely talk about my love life. Being a single girl, I have to admit that I am a little preoccupied with the fact that I have no man!!!!

Well, you got a taste of my vibe. So check me out when you can.

See ya!